8 things working people hate hearing from people without jobs

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Let’s face it. We work hard and we try to have lives outside of work, but it’s a careful, steady balance between being exhausted all of the time, or just choosing to not have a life. Lately, I’ve been working seven days a week, and no I don’t exactly enjoy it (although it’s definitely better than being jobless).

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I’m about to be 23 and I’d like to bet we all know someone our age who doesn’t have a job—and never has. Or maybe you just know someone who doesn’t need to work and takes a lot of time off or only works three to four days a week. So when we hear the following requests from people who are just trying to party and have fun, it kind of rubs us the wrong way, and here’s why:

1. “Come to so & so’s house/the bar/a restaurant/the party/etc straight after work!” 

I rarely have time in the day to shower, let alone sit down for 5 minutes. The last thing I want to do after busting my butt at work is to rush around, get ready and take off as soon as I got home. I need to wind down and relax for a minute. I would love to see you and hangout with you, but I’ll get there when I get there.

2. “Just drink a coffee/energy drink/pop!”

That would make number ten today. When you’re this tired, no amount of caffeine will help me…and it can’t be good for my heart, either. If I’m tired, I’m staying home.

3. “You don’t need sleep/Just don’t sleep!”

As much as I wish this were true, the signs my body is giving me say otherwise. I’ve likely already been running on E for five days straight. If I don’t sleep well, my exhaustion is just going to keep snowballing until I turn into a zombie.

4. “Your job can’t be that hard.” 

Despite how “hard” you may perceive my job, it is still a job and I put a lot of time and energy into it. I’m lucky enough to have a job and I’m going to continue to work hard so I can get where I want to be in life.

5. “Just go to work hungover tomorrow!”

I’m old enough to realize now that there comes a time when responsibility, common sense and being a good worker is more important to you than getting wasted. Mind you, I do go out and have fun as much as possible, but getting drunk to the point of being hungover at work isn’t worth it anymore. I did it once this summer, a few months ago, but no amount of “fun” the night before is worth it to me now.

6. “You’re lazy (because you don’t want to come out with us).”

Working 60 hours a week makes me lazy. Yep, you’re right.

7.  “You’re no fun.” 

Say what you want, but— work hard, play hard. It’ll pay off for me and my life will be way more fun in the future if I sacrifice a little bit of fun right now.

8.  “Just quit your job.” 

I shouldn’t even have to explain why this just isn’t reasonable.

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So, as much as I may sound like a Debby-downer in this post, I really do cherish my job(s) and I’m fortunate enough to have them. Not to mention, most of us are working really hard towards a much larger goal, and I wish people would respect that instead of teasing and nagging when we respectfully say “no” to going out or getting drunk until the wee hours of the morning.

So work on, my little worker bees and be proud!

Happy Birthday Mom!

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Happy 51st birthday to my beautiful mother, Dawn!
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I’d like to take this day to tell my mother, and the whole world, how special she is to me and how much I love her. Even if I don’t say it, and even if I don’t act like it sometimes, I wish there was another way to say “thank you” for everything that you have done for me, mom.

Besides for the obvious, bringing me to this earth, you’ve done far more than anyone ever has for me.

You’re my best friend, my caregiver, my roof over my head, my warm embrace, my wisdom-keeper and direction in life.

You always made me feel like I was worth it, I could do better, I AM better and that anything is possible. But really, it never would’ve been possible without you.

I never would’ve made it to college or had the confidence that I do if it wasn’t for you! You’re a strong woman and even if we butt heads, I know it’s for the best. You’ve always wanted the best for me, and you’ve selflessly helped me along the way. The traits that you have as a person are the ones I hope I have for my entire life.

I could write all day about how you’ve helped me out, but I just want to close this post by saying

No matter where I end up and no matter what happens, I love you and appreciate you. Happy birthday! <3

“The special bond shared between a mother and daughter is the one place in all the world where hearts can be sure of each other.

Like branches on a tree, we may grow in different directions, but our roots remain one.

And through the fury of the storm or the calm of the rainbow, we depend on each other for understanding and compassion.

We will always share these moments, sparkling like a star in our hand, keeping memories we have gathered through the years close to our hearts.”

I Was Nominated For The Versatile Blogger Award!

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Hello and welcome to my blog! I’ve recently been nominated for The Versatile Blogger Award by Girl in the Leopard Print Pants.

What is this award? It’s simple.

Here are the rules for accepting and passing on The Versatile Blogger Award:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you, and link back to their blog.
  • List 7 fun facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 10 other bloggers to receive the award. Your nominees should be bloggers that are versatile in nature. Their blogs should include a mix of stories, poems, messages, essays, etc.

 

So, without further adieu, here are seven interesting facts about myself:

1. I’m a vegetarian. I started researching factory farming at age 15 and even at that young age, I realized how detrimental it was to the (sacred) earth, our bodies and the animals. So, for 7 years, I’ve been going strong as a veg-head.

2. I longboard. When I moved away for college, I found out about longboarding and was always intrigued. I used to (try to) skateboard as a kid, so I figured, how hard could it be? A friend of mine was selling his board, so I bought it and began riding (not without enduring a lot of scrapes and bruises). I’ve been longboarding for two years because it’s so relaxing and frees me from the world.

3. I love EDM. It’s literally an addiction. I listen to other genres, but somehow have been addicted to electronic dance music for years and I just can’t stop. Festivals, concerts or just jamming out in my room or car–I love listening to it everywhere.

4. I’m still searching for the meaning of life. Seriously, though. Why are we here? We’re a tiny spec in the vast universe, just floating. It blows my mind that we don’t know more. I’m just going to live my life being happy and enjoying it because I do know that I’m only in this body on this earth for the short period of my life…I think.

5. I like doing things alone. I love my friends and family and I am a very social person, but sometimes I enjoy being alone. I’ve been to bars alone, parties alone, I always grocery shop alone and I even go out to eat alone. I think that makes me pretty independent, right?

6. I write. Big surprise there, right? I’ve kept journals since 2001, which I still manage to write in every so often. I’ve written over 90 poems (that are saved on my computer and not including ones on paper). I also wrote short stories back in the day, which lately I haven’t had time for. Oh, not to mention, I’m a PR person.

7. I’m going to Spain this September to study abroad. This is a going to be a huge experience for me. My minor is Spanish, so I’ll be completing my degree in Spain in the fall. If you want to know more, or help out, my website is http://www.gofundme.com/helpchelseagotospain

 

MY NOMINEES:

1. Living Life in the Driver Seat…Because it’s Mine A personal blog by Shelby Jackson

2. Amy Akers A personal blog by Amy Akers

3. Emotion on Canvas An art blog by Ray Ferrer

4. I’ve become my parents A personal blog by an anonymous blogger “Mr. My Parents”

5. Chris Zadorozny A sports blog by freelance sports reporter, Chris Zadorozny

6. A Slice of Understanding A personal blog by Jacquelyn Baker

7. Soubriquet A personal blog by Maggie Sisco

8. HarsH ReaLiTy A personal blog by Jason Cushman “Opinionated Man”

9. The War in My Brain A personal blog about mental health

10. The PR News Blog Just a good ol’ PR blog by PR News Online

 

 

Congratulations on your nominations and please tag me in your new post & pass it along!

 

Versatile Blogger Award Nomination!!

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I was nominated! I’ll be posting my own nominations shortly.

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Woop! I got nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award. Here are the details :)

Here are the rules for accepting and passing on The Versatile Blogger Award:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you, and link back to their blog.
  • List 7 fun facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 15 other bloggers to receive the award. Your nominees should be bloggers that are versatile in nature. Their blogs should include a mix of stories, poems, messages, essays, etc.

Seven Facts About Me

1. I have no filter. When talking with people – even strangers..I will say whatever comes to mind. Often I think it’s hilarious and might even start laughing before I’ve got any of it out. I look like a weirdo. But – I like to think that it keeps me honest – if I say it, you know I won’t have censored myself. Of course I’ll be tactful, but I’ll always…

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How to spot a cheater before you get played

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It’s incredible. One minute you’re being told you’re missed and cared about, the next minute he’s with his side chick, or she’s going behind your back with some dude.

You never realize how clear things are until you’re looking back at them.

So, once the truth surfaces, it may be hard to face; but honestly the hardest thing is thinking “How did I not know?”

I’ll never understand cheaters. How can you, over such a long period of time, deceive two people and sleep at night?  Despite not understanding their ways, I can look rationally at the situation and pull out the things that should be considered “red flags” in the situation.

So, I’ve taken quite a few things out of my deceitful experience, and I would like to share them with you all.  I’m no professional, but I can say I’ve been cheated on twice in the past two relationships, and there’s definite patterns I should’ve picked up the second time around. I won’t make this mistake again, and I hope all you innocent men and women don’t fall for the trap:

1. Cheaters always make you feel like you’re the one doing something wrong because of their own guilty conscious. 

They make you feel guilty, for whatever reason. You’re not doing anything wrong and don’t make them think you are. If they start accusing you of cheating or lying when you’re obviously innocent, it’s probably them.

2. Cheaters are perfectly fine with “being friends” with an ex. 

In my recent situation, both me and this guy were deceived and noticed this was an odd trend. We both agreed this was kind of weird. If the cheater is hanging out with an ex, chances are there could still be some sparks. Then they’ll make you think you’re the crazy one if you bring up your concerns about them “getting a little too close.”

3. Cheaters don’t want to make it official (even if you’ve been dating for a reasonable amount of time).

There’s something going on when they don’t want to put a title on it.  If they’re making excuses for being official, you have every right to feel concerned because this is a sure sign they’re not ready for commitment. If a guy/girl wants to be exclusive with you, he’ll never make an excuse for putting off a title after a reasonable amount of time dating.

4. Going along with #3: Cheaters don’t want to make it FACEBOOK official. 

They might say things like “I don’t use Facebook like that” or “You should know I care about you without having to put it on Facebook” or really any little excuse they can come up with. A girl at my firm today explained, “Back in the day, girls would wear a guys Varsity jacket, or wear a pin, or have something that showed everyone they were together–today, that’s Facebook.”

This one of course is subjective, but I believe even if they REALLY don’t use Facebook that much, then why would it be such a big deal to put up a status to make their significant other feel reassured? I understand some people really don’t care about social media at all…but for me, if they look completely single on Facebook… Red flag.

 5. Cheaters don’t want you to get too close to their friends/family. 

I wasn’t in this situation as I surprisingly met all the family and friends, but I can bet the other girl was left in the dark. If it seems like they don’t want to “show you off” or be proud of being with you, they’re probably trying to cover their tracks. No matter what BS they’re telling you, if they don’t bring you into their circle, they could be hiding something so their friends don’t accidentally give up their act.

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6. You have a gut feeling.

It might sound crazy but if something feels wrong, it probably is. When you want to look past the little things because you’re so hung up with infatuation, you may end up staying in the relationship past its expiration date. You become blinded by the things you like about this person, and you ignore the blatant red flags.

 

I’ll definitely be a little more careful and a little less gullible after my experience. I’m not going to carry baggage into my next relationship or look for these things if they don’t exist, because I know not all guys are the same; but I believe the signs will be much clearer next time. If they want to be with me, there will be no questions. I won’t have a gut feeling, and I won’t have to even bring up the situations as mentioned above —that person will love me, care about me, be glad to show me off, and prove that the relationship is worth it—not with just words (or excuses), but actions.

 

Obviously, this list is very incomplete. Comment below to add to this list, or disagree completely! :)

 

 

 

Longboarding & deep thoughts.

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Today, I made an analysis between the wonderful sport of longboarding and the intricate, complicated struggles of life. Sounds farfetched, but just hang tight and you might get where I’m coming from.

As I was trying to cruise down the vast suburbia of Woodhaven, I realized how incredibly horrible the pavement is around here. If i boarded in the street, I was dodging potholes, and if I went on the sidewalk, I was hitting cracks that may have reached the center of the earth. And while I cut back and forth across the road, I realized the following….

While cruising along through life, you may have to dodge threats, obstacles and hazards that are directly in front of you. If you look away or get distracted, you might fall into a pothole you so obliviously ignored.

Sometimes you look back, because someone or something could come flying up and run you over. You look back—but never for too long as to be distracted from the present.

At other times, you may be looking far ahead to plan you exact move. You think you’re wise because it’s better to be prepared. Even focusing too far ahead can make you miss what’s right in front of you.

But as you’re riding, you’re always keeping in mind that a tiny rock– something insignificant in the scope of the entire road– could knock you down. And you might fall hard. You think you’ve taken every step to avoid danger, and yet this still happens.

There’s always a chance for disaster. It could be a tiny pebble or a steep crack. It will always take you by surprise. But if you don’t pick yourself up and forget about the pain of falling, then you’ll never achieve what you really wanted in the first place.

To cruise,

to love,

to breathe,

to have the wind in your hair

and to keep moving forward.

Photo credit: Boardgirl.com

Photo credit: Boardgirl.com

 

Longboarding. A metaphor for life.

 

 

Steps closer to becoming a PR pro

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This year has been insanely successful and eye-opening for me. I can’t believe how far I’ve come and how much I have achieved. As I mentioned before, I’m a student at CMU studying public relations and Spanish. The journey through this program has been so enlightening to me and I can’t hold it in any longer!

For my family and friends that care, this blog is not only for my own self-reflection, but to let you know what I’ve been doing since I’ve felt pretty anti-social this semester. Once again, I’m a big list-maker so here is my lovely achievements organized nicely for your reading pleasure:

1. Tanner Friedman

I landed a summer internship at the strategic communications firm, Tanner Friedman, which is located in Farmington Hills. This opportunity almost fell into my hands, which is still unbelievable to me. I went to the PRSSA Internship Fair back in November, and Kaylin Knowles can tell you how big of a disaster that whole day was. We were scrambling to pull our portfolios and resumes together, and nearly missed the entire thing.  Surprisingly, the firm contacted me in February and I got an internship out of the whole ordeal.

Tips for anyone going to the PRSSA Internship Fair this fall: (OMG a list within a list!)

  • Don’t worry about your portfolio–no one even opened mine.
  • DO YOUR RESEARCH! I was embarrassed when asked “So what do you like about our company?” and had to come up with some generic, unimpressive answer because I knew little to nothing about their firm.
  • Dress nice and be confident. Confidence is key. If you call yourself a PR person, confidence is a must. Take the time to let your personality shine through.
  • Follow through. This is something I failed to do because I assumed I made bad impressions due to my lack of research, but following through shows your interest for the company and also shows you respected their time. It means a lot. I know I probably lost a few brownie points for not doing so.
  • Last, don’t be afraid to fail. I thought for sure I didn’t impress anyone with my conversations, yet I landed my internship out of it! So don’t give up hope and remember, even if you don’t get a call or email, you still gained the experience talking and interviewing with professionals!

2. Sarah Opperman Public Relations Internship Endowment

So I feel foolish for not doing this EVERY semester, but every department has scholarships available, and all it takes is a little bit of time to apply! I applied for seven scholarships within the Department of Journalism, and was pleasantly surprised to find out I was granted $1,000 from the Sarah Opperman PR Scholarship. Each application required a short (usually one page) essay and asked a few questions, but how easy is that? I feel so happy an honored to have been granted this scholarship.

3. Office of Study Abroad Scholarship

I also applied for a scholarship through the Office of Study Abroad and was granted $2,000 for applying! This brings me that much closer to my study abroad aspirations in the fall. I can hardly wait.

4. Blogging abroad

I applied to blog for OSA while I’m studying abroad and was accepted. I will be blogging at least once per week via Blogger while I study abroad in Spain beginning in September. More details to come.

5. CM Life 

This is my second semester working for the CM Life PR team and it has honestly been such an amazing experience. I made an entire portfolio out of the work we’ve done this semester (another piece to show off!). I’ve had some works published, been in promotional videos, helped create and promote events, and I’ve networked with so many awesome people. It’s going to be sad to leave the team, but I’m constantly reminded that I picked a major in a career that I love, so it just makes me that much more excited.

6. DOW Prosocial PSA Competition

This semester, I was involved in a competition to create a public service announcement for The DOW Chemical Company. The PSA was about veterans returning to the college environment and the unique challenges they face with reintegration. The winning PSA would be produced and published by DOW. Unfortunately, my group did not win the competition, but I still gained the experience working with this group and also pitching our idea to professionals. (I also got to be an extra in the PSA that is currently being produced — more details TBA). So even out of this “failure,” I still feel like a winner!

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In addition to all of these amazing opportunities, there are still more to come. I can’t wait to move home this summer for this internship, and also prepare to study abroad in Spain from Sept. 1 – Dec. 23. There are unlimited opportunities to where life will take me next!

I’d just like to remind those of you who are reading, that even if you feel like you’re failing, I hope my (brief) stories show you that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Keep your chin up and take each “failure” as an opportunity to better yourself, and you will never be disappointed.

 

xoxo

Chelsea